On Sexual Expectations in Our Have it Instantaneously Culture

It has come to my attention that, should a woman hold out sexually from a man, that she is declared by him to be "manipulative." While, admittedly, there do exist women who subscribe to the limited patriarchal paradigm allotted to us, there are, perhaps in the same proportion, those of us who do not.

I will, perhaps, bring you joy with insight that such women are NOT hard to spot. For, everything social interaction with them incorporates act of subversion. They are hardly to bare the whole of the blame for this, however. As, they have chosen the path of least resistance.

I write this piece, though, to inform that "other half" of the world's population about the other class of female. the type that does not believe any man could merit sex on the first night. Or that, even after dating steadily for months and months,  that a boyfriend may not be inherently entitled to, say, his lover doning lingerie. Even if, he is, generally, outstanding.

Now, any man reading this is probably outraged. So much so that, he may never care what "explanation" this woman offers. Where as, any woman reading this may easily be able to understand the reasoning without it ever having to be explicitly written.

There is a problem in the world today. Alright--- there are SOOOOO _MAAANY_ __PROBLEMS__!!! But, here's one  :) <-- smiley face. Colon -->  :  In the course of my tender life, I have noted that one of the fundamental problems with today's "relationships" (damn straight I am using quotes!) is that no one has ANY idea about the level of commitment of the other person. Consequently, people __BEHAVE__ as though they don't give a hoot about how a relationship (in the sense of two people interacting) develops. Yet, people's needs do not change. Now, pair this with the "need everything instantaneously" culture that we live in. Welcome to today's "relationship." Where, people sleep around like no one cares but, do, in fact; if only on the ego level. Which, of course, leaves everyone either trying to competitively date either MORE or "better" (but only in stereotypical, superficial ways!) people than their rival (a.k.a. their "friend with benefits," "boyfriend," "girlfriend," and what-ever else you call each other these days). At best, you have two people who spend a wee bit of time together outside of the bedroom, seem to at least KIND OF enjoy each others company, but where AT LEAST one of always seem to posses this belief that she could do better than the other. So, both parties have SOME degree of understanding that this is "just for fun" (Whose having FUN?! Maybe only if you are "winning" you declare it to be this...).

Once in a Venus transit (Venus transits across the Sun about every 243 years and is _THE_ rarest predictable astronomical phenomena), however, you meet a person who has a higher inherent degree of inclination toward monogamy than others. Unfortunately, this person was most probably unable o grow up in a cultural vacuum, however. So, had absorbed certain tendencies which characterize our current American landscape. I am only here to discuss the men who have absorbed this feeling of sexual entitlement to a woman-- even if he IS dating her!

The motive, I MUST state directly: it is, I write in earnest, because we require an honest relationship! Which is to say that: what occurs therein is ACTUALLY REFLECTIVE of how the woman believes the state of the bond between the two of you to be. Therefore, if a man does NOT love a women with all of his heart, it is PERFECTLY UNREASONABLE for the male to posses anything more than MINOR sexual expectations (i.e KISSING-- damn straight! Read that again... let it sink IIIIIIIIIIIIIN!!!) of her! Which, of course (though you may pretend to disagree), hold no sway over an angry, sad, etc. partner.... So, gentlemen (now, after reading this, I _HOPE_!), do we understand?!

Grrrrr!